This evening we had to make a stop at my mom and dad's house. THGGM had to move some heavy furniture back into a room for my dad.
When we arrived, it looked like my mom was ready to leave on vacation. She was going from room to room looking for my dad.
Now, this is nothing new. But it was the first time I actually SAW her looking for my dad.
Of course, THGGM knew exactly where my dad would be and went downstair.
My mom then told me that she thinks my dad is 'losing it'.
I'd spent some time today taking care of some prescription changes, scheduled an appointment, and did a few other things for them that I needed to talk to my dad about. He seemed fine to me.
But my mom had all of her clothes laid out, ready to 'go home'.
So instead of spending a nice quiet evening packing books, THGGM took one look at me and wisked me away to the lake shore, which always serves to bouy my spirit.
We took the scenic route to get there, driving along the Grand River through quiant little towns.
We ate along the channel in Grand Haven. We watched the sky change as the sun began to set.
THGGM told me that this week of vacation is more relaxing to him than the one we spent in Traverse City. I'm so tightly wound this week I'm even making myself crazy. And it is ONLY TUESDAY.
I think more family members will need to move in the very near future.
And I must ask myself, is sanity really necessary?
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I've always believed sanity is entirely optional.
Oh, honey. I'd be giving you a big hug right now if I was there. Sigh. The way I 'de-fused' when I was taking care of my mom as she died from colon cancer, then my Aunt Gin just a few years later of the same thing, was to come in at the end of the day and tell Dear Hubby and the kids I needed to go 'veg' a while. I'd head out onto one of the porches with a glass of iced tea and just...veg. A half hour of uninterrupted time, and I was fine. I am so thankful they realized that, and let me have it. And I think I've come thru it all...and my dad's death, too...with a FEW marbles still intact. I know it says we aren't given any more than we can bear. I think people like you and me can just bear a heavier load than others can, and that's why we've been given them. I can't say, in retrospect, that it's been bad for me, either. It's helped to make me more empathetic and understanding to those going thru similar things. But it's not easy, is it. You'll be in my prayers tonite...
I am so glad THGGY saw the need and addressed it immediately.
I can imagine that to see it was unnerving - it always is unnerving when something you know becomes more than just knowing and enters the realm of reality.
Take care or yourself. You have a lot on your plate right now.
In some of the hard places in my life, I clung to the verses that indicate HE will not give us more than we can bear, as Kris stated. HE is all we have really!! I am so sorry...it is SO HARD to loose your mom piece by piece...I lost mine that way. Last time I saw her she did not even know me...her oldest child and her only daughter. For me, she was gone at that point...and my heavy grief began then. Today I focus on where she really is and seeing her again...whole, happy and herself!! One of these days!!
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